10 THINGS THAT BRING SUCCESS


10.MAKING RIGHT CHOICES NO MATTER HOW DIFFICULT.
Living in the right ways is not easy it is difficult to pass through. It needs lot of perseverance and faith. After surpassing all of the circumstances, as a return you may build self-respect and the respect of others.





9.BEING GENEROUS!
Being generous not all by means of money, it may also one of the factor but not as a whole. You may be generous by simply give the gifts of your precious time and amazing abilities to others.




8.WORKING HARD AT SOMETHING YOU LIKE OR THAT IS REQUIRED OF YOU.

The same with the saying " do your best, and God will be the rest". Accomplishing your work will make you feel good. You will have no worry and cramming for tomorrow comes.

7. STARTING OVER AFTER MAKING MISTAKES.
We must have to bear in mind that last night is just a part of yesterday and today is another day and a new start. Greatness is not measurable by your accomplishments and achievements, it is how you stand up everything you fall. Overcoming on one’s failure is a vast gift for your self. It is good to fail as long as you know how to cope with it, and later, you will know what to do next.





6. CHOOSING GOOD FRIENDS.
It is better to have one good friend that you can lean and rely on in times of need, than to have a millions in name only. In choosing a friend be cautious for there are some may use you for their security sake, and be vigilant even to your best friend as what the saying says, "your best friend is also your best enemy" for they know most of your secrets and weakness that he may use that to defeat you or falls you down.

5. LOVING OTHERS IN SPITE OF THEIR FAULTS.
This kind of love is the highest form of loving. Loving in which you are willing to get rid your pride to accept his/her real identity in spite and despite of his/her shortcomings. Loving without boundaries and limitations is what all been searching for, because it is one in one hundred you may find the right partner that may have you through thick and thin.


4. LIVING PEACEFULLY WITH OTHERS.
Conflicts robs you energy and motivation. This means that conflict brings nothing but notary chaos to you and to others. Peace of mind is the best sleeping pill.


3. BELIEVING THAT GOD LOVES YOU.
If you truly love God you will not limit your self on to Him, in such a way that you will believe on him in times of danger and asking to Him. You as the Christian should know Him and love Him. You will not leave Him in times of good harvest instead you must more be thankful and believing Him more" (Romans 5:80).


2.TALKING TO GOD IN PRAYER.
(Get real with Him. He knows what is your heart desires). It is good to communicate with god every day, it’s like sharing your burdens, agony, pain, boredom and problems with Him. He is willing to help you in times you are in need. God is the best friend to have, because His everything.


1.DISCOVERING GODS PURPOSE FOR YOUR LIFE.
(He has the best plan.). Allow Him to enter in your life and live according to His will.


29:11 "for I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for wholeness and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope."











Reference: Book of hope

A letter of the Daughter


Dear Mama,



Ma, I am just a damn daughter to you, I just destroyed your dreams, ruin your life and gives you a miserable life instead of fairytale living. I am the black sheep of the family and a burden to you. I always do things I want. Yeah, I knew it that it hurts you, I always wanted to hurt you in that way I can take my revenge to you. Do you know why? It is because you don’t have time for me. You don’t see my importance as your daughter instead you just keeping me to be one of your followers that follow everything you say with open arms and with a head bow down.
I always take you for granted and if hard days comes you always there, but still I despised you. I really don’t care about what you fell at all; I just care of myself alone, care and listening just myself alone. I never tried to listen to your reminders, requests and counsels instead discard it and retort to you instead. I give you shit for your goodness and take you a way every time you come near to me, I build a barrier between us. Everything I give to you is heartaches, agonies and pains. I always ask but return you nothing, you always tried to be good but instead of thanking you, I do discriminate and rebut you.
I always get you upset for the reason of catching your attention and likewise to Papa. I just want you to know I’m here, hello!?. I’m here in front of you knocking that please notice me notice the good in me not my clumsiness, failures and rudeness. And still you don’t hear it. That’s way I keep on doing bad things and shows it to you. Yeah, it’s very effective, I have you for a meantime, at last you notice me, you talk to me, I fell that you are here again with me. I love looking your furious and despising gaze. In that time I can have an eye contact with you. I have you and you have me too.
You know Ma, I’m just jealous to others, whom have a great family bonding. They were very happy in each other’s company, you can see it in their faces. They are very sweet to each other they share jokes, opinions and everything about their experiences on that day, they talks as if there’s no tomorrow. They laugh together and very very happy. Does it happen to us? No it didn’t. I can’t remember that we’ve undergone that. What we usually do is fighting and insulting each other. I haven’t heard you say that you love me even ones. I don’t remember that you hug me tight and kissing me. You are very cold and numb. You are very busy of your business and go home late and tired. Most of the time when your home you’re scolding us if not your sleeping, you really don’t have time for us. You want us to understand you, but youdid not tries to understand us too?
Ma I do love you, I really do. It just you are very hard to approach because there once I tried to come near to you and started to be sweet to you, you haven’t like it instead you said do you want something? You know Ma it crushed me into pieces, I said to myself I will never do it again, I don’t want another embarrassments again. There was one time when I gave you a letter, its valentines day and our teacher asked us to wrote a valentines card and gave it to the one we love. So, I decided to make one and thinking that you would like and appreciate it but what had happen was you take it for granted and put it somewhere and it was blown away. Starting that day on, I promised myself never to make a letter again address to you. Because it truly hurts ma, it crushed me to death, it’s like being toasted in the oven toaster, and the feeling of neglecting is what really I felt that time. Even through I was in elementary years that time, I matured a lot from that experienced, I still can’t forget it, it always come back in my memory. There was once also that I tried to be nice with you and trying to be sweet through hugging and kissing you but you get angered with me because you were very tired that time and you don’t want somebody to disturbed you. That time also I started to hate you for ignoring my effort. I thought that you would be glad of what I did, I just try to ease your wearisome, but you take me a way. I’m afraid to you because you are cold-hearted Ma. You never tried to come near to me, talk to me and exchanging thoughts with me. You do no action for us to be in good terms again. Based on the things I remembered to you when I was in my childhood days that you are always busy of going somewhere you don’t have time for us that’s way that if they asked me "kinsa imong ganahan si mama o si papa?", my answer is always "si Papa" because his always there for me, he hug and kiss me always, I found by importance in papa’s arm. I don’t remember any good times between us, I always remember from you that you are kuripot and busy, but still I love you. I know that I don’t have right to question you, you are my mother you deserve my love and respect. Who I am by the way, I am just your daughter that dependent still to you, in short a burden.
Ma I’m sorry for every bad things I’ve done, I mention above my reasons I hope that that you may forgive meI love you so much!


Loving you so much,
Your Prodigal Daughter.

Journal 5

SEPTEMBER 3-4, 2008

This is the day that the group decided to make our Gannt chart. We haven’t do the Gannt chart early because no one ( my BSIT-3 evening class before) have the idea what a Gannt chart is, and Sir Gamboa didn’t explain so much about it. Sir Gamboa let us discover it by our self. When some of my classmates ( third year regular) finished their projects, that’s the only time that we got an idea what a Gannt Chart is, what for.
He made our Gannt chart in my boarding house while we were making the project we tried to enjoy ourselves, even it is not easy to schedule your activities still things run out smoothly and good.
When we were already done, my group mate volunteered to pass it. And at exactly Sept. 04, 2008 at 4:45pm.
unfortunately Sir Gamboa was not around so we decided to left it in his table!!!

Journal 4


OCTOBER 02,2008
1:00-6:00PM.
SATURDAY



This is my most awaiting time, our last meeting in our subject. It’s not actually that classes are already ended, but kindly like that. It happens because our teacher believes that learning is not only found inside the classroom but also learn how to live in the real world. Instead of having a class discussion about theories and a mere imagination about the topic discussed, why don’t we have it in reality? This is how our subject HRM in USEP under Sir Randy S. Gamboa being held.
We do have an actual class outside the university by having visit companies asked, observed and learned strategies that best used to get hired and being a good and productive asset of a company we will be hosting someday. Its not only let us just be a merely dumped flaunt but to be a responsible worker to whom that we might get served. The said activity molds us at the same time processing us to eat our ass, oops its not what like that.@#$ I mean to be people what we meant to be.
We do have miss conception if we may say life is just a piece cake, this is one of my learnings, like asking for a favor from a top people for allowing the group lend their time and talent for entertaining the group requirements (to conduct interview into the assigned topic). The feeling is like a bread in a oven toaster, you are being toast in their gazes and throws questions. But all of these gives an idea how to behave next in facing people it might be just a simply an employee or the big bosses. Our patience and perseverance is being test, until such time that it take like hell. In such a way that you almost losing your hope, for in real world, asking favor needs much effort and style to win the heart of the people you need the most.
I also learned to create some sorts of lies just to catch their intention, like listening to what they have said even its half-truth, you still have to keep focus and interested, sometimes you must have to throws compliments to boost their egos and win their hearts.
However, it helps me realize that all we are doing of today affects our future. Thanks to you sir for taking off the blindfolds, the blindfolds that covers our eyes for quite so long. Keep going sir and have a nice day to you. And also to my classmates and everyone that might accidentally read this hope that you enjoy reading all my sentiments! Have a better life ahead to all of us!

TOP 10 WAYS TO SUCCESSFULLY ADJUST TO COLLEGE LIFE



GET INVOLVED. Involvement with others and campus activities are healthy. Involvement can breed positive thoughts and feelings and is related to good self-esteem and academic success.


STAY POSITIVE. Work towards maintaining an optimistic attitude and interacting with others in productive ways. Be accepting and tolerant of yourself and others.


GO TO CLASS. Attendance in class brought to be one of your top priorities. Your academic success and successful stress management is dependent upon good attendance.


PARTY SMART. If you choose to drink alcohol and enjoy partying, do it in ways that results in harm top yourself and others, and doesn’t result in poor academic performance. Do things in moderation.


STAY ON CAMPUS WHEN YOU CAN. The college years are time to develop independence and autonomy. This occurs when you become your own person and develop new relationships in your new community.


EAT AND SLEEP WELL. We function at our best when bodies are properly nurtured.


PRACTICE GOOD STRESS MANAGEMENT. While some stress are inevitable, there are things we can do to prevent or reduce stress. Seek out and learn these methods.


COMMUNICATE PRODUCTIVITY. Be assertive with others so your own needs are met, but do this in ways that respect others and their differences.


MAINTAIN HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. In work avoid “toxic relationship”, but also do a lot of give and take friends. Put effort into resolving conflicts and ways that honour you and others. Stay in touch with those supports you.


STAY FOCUSED. Academic life requirements to focus and concentrate. Work to avoid and reduce things that interfere with your concentration.


FREE TIPS IMPROVING STUDYING RESULTS


STUDY IN SHORT, FREQUENT SESSIONS.

It has been proven that short burst of concentration repeated frequently are much effective than one long session. So, even if you have 10 minutes, do it. Take a break. Then study another 10 minutes. This Distributed Learning approach is highly efficient because it honors the way the brain likes to work. The brain needs recovery and recharging time for “protein synthesis”. The rest periods are when your brain assimilates your effort. They are powerful tool, which many teachers do not acknowledge. To sit and study for hours and hours is not only boring, it creates fatigue, stress and distraction. You cannot learn if you are fatigue, stressed and distracted.


TAKE GUILT-FREE DAYS OF REST.

This follows the same principle as above, but on a longer daily time cycle. The reason for resting is to refresh oneself. However, if you feel guilty (“I really cant study) then, your precious rest period has been used to create more stress. The brain will not absorb new data if it is stressed. On days off from studying, really enjoy yourself and do not feel bad about studying.


HONOR YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE.

Do not study if you are tired, angry, distracted or in a hurry. When the brain is relaxed, it is like a sponge and it naturally absorbs data without effort. If you are emotionally stressed your brain literally repels data. Forcing yourself to sit and study when your mind is on other thing is a complete waste of time!

REVIEW THE SAME DAY.

When you learn something new, try to go over the points and then make
efforts to review the material it will seem much familiar. However, quick reviews later in the day tend to cement the information into your brain so that next “official” studies session; you will recognize it and it will seem easy.


5.OBSERVE THE NATURAL LEARNING SEQUENCE.

Think of the activities you did when you were in nursery school. Using your whole arm, you probably the song goes: “put your right hand in, put your right hand out”. Then, in kindergarten, using your hand, you might have been asked to draw lines or circles with crayons. Later, in first grade, now holding the pencil with your fingers, you drew smaller lines and circles to create letters. Believe it or not, this natural learning sequence, moving from large to small, coarse to fine, still remains effective even though we are now older. When you study, if you try first to grasp the big picture and then fill in the details, you often have a more likely chance of success.


USE EXAGGERATION.

Why does a baseball batter warm up by swinging two or three bats? Why do runners sometimes strap lead weights to their legs? In both cases, exaggeration during practice makes the final result seem easy. This concept can be applied on studying anything. For example, if you are studying spelling, exaggerate the sound of the letters to help you remember them. So for studying purposes “naïve” would be pronounced “NAY-IVY”. By getting, used to this exaggerated pronunciations, the correct spelling seems obvious.

PREPARE YOUR STUDY ENVIRONMENT.

If you require certain elements in your environment to help you study, try to always make this priority. For example, do you need special lightning, silence, music, privacy, available snacks, etc.? Pay attention to what works for you and repeat it each time you study for best success.

RESPECT “BRAIN FADE”.

It is normal for the brain to have an attrition rate and forget things. This does not mean that you are stupid! Instead of getting mad about this fact, you should expect it and deal with it accordingly. See your self as the depositing layers of knowledge. As you place more attention on top, the lower levels become older and less available to your immediate recall. The trick her is simply to review. Since we can anticipate the eventual fading of our memory, creating a review aspect to your study session will solve the problem. Once every two or three study sessions, simply review older material that you will still need to remember. Often, a quick overview is sufficient. Sometimes, a complete detailed study session of the older material is required. “Brain fade” is completely normal (Unless you are gifted with photographic memory, which is extremely rare). Our brain has two kinds of memory: the long-term memory and short-term memory. The long-term memory is memories that not easy fade like special events of your lives; you may reminisce the special event it takes long time. The memory is already cemented in your brain, while short-term memory is that memory that easy forgotten, for the brain store the data for a while. For example, your lesson in the school you may remember the lesson after you study and while having the test, but as time goes by, what you had studied is already forgotten after few days.

CREATE STUDY ROUTINE.

Generally, if you scheduled certain times of the day to study, you will get into routine and accomplish more. If you just “fit it in” during your day, chances are there will never be any time. An effective way to do this is to literally mark it down in your date-book calendar as if you have an appointment, like going to the doctor.

SET REASONABLE GOALS.

One of the main reasons why people don’t reach their goals that are manageable, even if they seem too simply, you get in the habit of accomplishing them and gradually you can set higher goals. Also, recognize the difference between long-term and shot-term goals. Set your vision on the long-term dream, but your day-to-day activity should be focused exclusively on the short-term enabling steps.

AVOID THE FRUSTRATION ENEMY.

Ironically, the quicker the person’s nervous system, the faster learn. Yet, this fast nervous system also works overtime in being self-critical. So they are the ones who always think they aren’t going fast enough! In contrast, the “type b”, less intense person who learns slower yet is more self-accepting, end ends up ultimately learning the material in a shorter period of time. This is because he/ she doesn’t waste energy blocking, getting upset, and thinking that they are not good enough—they simply keep moving forward at a slower 9but unblocked) pace.



These tips were prepared by Howard Richman and offered for free as a courtesy. http:/www.soundfeelings.com/free/studying.html

FREE TIPS IMPROVING STUDYING RESULTS



FREE TIPS IMPROVING STUDYING RESULTS




STUDY IN SHORT, FREQUENT SESSIONS.

It has been proven that short burst of concentration repeated frequently are much effective than one long session. So, even if you have 10 minutes, do it. Take a break. Then study another 10 minutes. This Distributed Learning approach is highly efficient because it honors the way the brain likes to work. The brain needs recovery and recharging time for “protein synthesis”. The rest periods are when your brain assimilates your effort. They are powerful tool, which many teachers do not acknowledge. To sit and study for hours and hours is not only boring, it creates fatigue, stress and distraction. You cannot learn if you are fatigue, stressed and
distracted.


TAKE GUILT-FREE DAYS OF REST.

This follows the same principle as above, but on a longer daily time cycle. The reason for resting is to refresh oneself. However, if you feel guilty (“I really cant study) then, your precious rest period has been used to create more stress. The brain will not absorb new data if it is stressed. On days off from studying, really enjoy yourself and do not feel bad about studying.



HONOR YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE.

Do not study if you are tired, angry, distracted or in a hurry. When the brain is relaxed, it is like a sponge and it naturally absorbs data without effort. If you are emotionally stressed your brain literally repels data. Forcing yourself to sit and study when your mind is on other thing is a complete waste of time!

REVIEW THE SAME DAY.

When you learn something new, try to go over the points and then make
efforts to review the material it will seem much familiar. However, quick reviews later in the day tend to cement the information into your brain so that next “official” studies session; you will recognize it and it will seem easy.


5.OBSERVE THE NATURAL LEARNING SEQUENCE.

Think of the activities you did when you were in nursery school. Using your whole arm, you probably the song goes: “put your right hand in, put your right hand out”. Then, in kindergarten, using your hand, you might have been asked to draw lines or circles with crayons. Later, in first grade, now holding the pencil with your fingers, you drew smaller lines and circles to create letters. Believe it or not, this natural learning sequence, moving from large to small, coarse to fine, still remains effective even though we are now older. When you study, if you try first to grasp the big picture and then fill in the details, you often have a more likely chance of success.


USE EXAGGERATION.

Why does a baseball batter warm up by swinging two or three bats? Why do runners sometimes strap lead weights to their legs? In both cases, exaggeration during practice makes the final result seem easy. This concept can be applied on studying anything. For example, if you are studying spelling, exaggerate the sound of the letters to help you remember them. So for studying purposes “naïve” would be pronounced “NAY-IVY”. By getting, used to this exaggerated pronunciations, the correct spelling seems obvious.



PREPARE YOUR STUDY ENVIRONMENT.

If you require certain elements in your environment to help you study, try to always make this priority. For example, do you need special lightning, silence, music, privacy, available snacks, etc.? Pay attention to what works for you and repeat it each time you study for best success.

RESPECT “BRAIN FADE”.

It is normal for the brain to have an attrition rate and forget things. This does not mean that you are stupid! Instead of getting mad about this fact, you should expect it and deal with it accordingly. See your self as the depositing layers of knowledge. As you place more attention on top, the lower levels become older and less available to your immediate recall. The trick her is simply to review. Since we can anticipate the eventual fading of our memory, creating a review aspect to your study session will solve the problem. Once every two or three study sessions, simply review older material that you will still need to remember. Often, a quick overview is sufficient. Sometimes, a complete detailed study session of the older material is required. “Brain fade” is completely normal (Unless you are gifted with photographic memory, which is extremely rare). Our brain has two kinds of memory: the long-term memory and short-term memory. The long-term memory is memories that not easy fade like special events of your lives; you may reminisce the special event it takes long time. The memory is already cemented in your brain, while short-term memory is that memory that easy forgotten, for the brain store the data for a while. For example, your lesson in the school you may remember the lesson after you study and while having the test, but as time goes by, what you had studied is already forgotten after few days.

CREATE STUDY ROUTINE.

Generally, if you scheduled certain times of the day to study, you will get into routine and accomplish more. If you just “fit it in” during your day, chances are there will never be any time. An effective way to do this is to literally mark it down in your date-book calendar as if you have an appointment, like going to the doctor.

SET REASONABLE GOALS.

One of the main reasons why people don’t reach their goals that are manageable, even if they seem too simply, you get in the habit of accomplishing them and gradually you can set higher goals. Also, recognize the difference between long-term and shot-term goals. Set your vision on the long-term dream, but your day-to-day activity should be focused exclusively on the short-term enabling steps.

AVOID THE FRUSTRATION ENEMY.

Ironically, the quicker the person’s nervous system, the faster learn. Yet, this fast nervous system also works overtime in being self-critical. So they are the ones who always think they aren’t going fast enough! In contrast, the “type b”, less intense person who learns slower yet is more self-accepting, end ends up ultimately learning the material in a shorter period of time. This is because he/ she doesn’t waste energy blocking, getting upset, and thinking that they are not good enough—they simply keep moving forward at a slower 9but unblocked) pace.


These tips were prepared by Howard Richman and offered for free as a courtesy. http:/www.soundfeelings.com/free/studying.html